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The sun was climbing high into the sky as I drove my kids to their homeschool tutorial. The earth had been blanketed by a heavy fog that was still clinging to the land, giving the hills a soft-focus. We rounded the curve that marked the near-end of our trek when, all around us, we noticed them: Thousands upon thousands of gossamer bowls clinging to the tall blades of grass and the lower branches of the newly-green trees.
What has hatched overnight and spun all these webs? Is this good or is it a plague?
My imagination might have gone a little crazy for about thirty seconds.
I wanted to take a photo SO badly, but I figured manhandling my cell phone at 70+ miles per hour would set a very poor example for my future drivers, and we were running late so stopping on the side of the road to explore would make for an awkward arrival after classes had already begun. Therefore, I made a mental note to take the time necessary to document this phenomenon on the way home.
We arrived at the tutorial in the nick of time and mentioned what we saw to the tutors, still in awe over the sheer multitude of the webs. They had seen them before, of course, and said the webs are always there, just not visible until the dew settles on them. That got me to thinking, as nature often does.
I kissed my babes goodbye and hit the road for the thirty minute drive home, prepared for a quick detour and mini photo session.
Except they were gone. I squinted to try and see them, maybe picking out a couple here and there if I looked really hard but surprised that in the span of fifteen minutes the lifting of the fog had rendered the thousands of webs almost completely invisible!
“Lord, what do you want to teach me?” I spoke out loud, knowing God always has a parable waiting for us in His creation. It declares His glory. All of it, always.
I drove the rest of the way home in silence, waiting as my mind pieced together truth and compared what I had seen to what I know from Scripture.
James 1:25 (MSG) says,
But whoever catches a glimpse of the revealed counsel of God—the free life!—even out of the corner of his eye, and sticks with it, is no distracted scatterbrain but a man or woman of action. That person will find delight and affirmation in the action.
As a writer, I have found it necessary to keep a way of jotting down notes on hand at all times because I never know where I’ll be or what I’ll be doing when inspiration hits. And I can make mental notes all the live-long day but by the time I get home to my computer I will draw a complete blank when I try to recall what it was that made my heart burn earlier in the day. Every. Single. Time. This applies to my walk with God as well!
He is constantly working on us, dealing with weakness, strengthening our strengths, molding and shaping and purifying our lives by revealing the “webs” that have infested our lives. Like the early morning dew, settling heavy on the land and revealing what has been there all along, God gently settles His attention on the things we thought we had hidden. This is “the revealed counsel of God” mentioned in the above passage.
And if we are willing, the revelation is beautiful.
It is a loving Father who disciplines his child. It is a good and faithful God who refuses to leave us as we are because He sees in us who we will become. It is a tender and attentive Husband who leads and protects His Bride, guiding her away from harm, revealing and washing away the stains imposed upon her by the struggle of living in this fallen world. He knows we are dust, but never leaves us in the dust.
Oh, how He loves us.
Be encouraged today, dear one. When you are confronted by your sins and the realization of what has been allowed to lurk in your life threatens to throw you into shame, look up. Your Heavenly Father is busy, working ever-so-gently to clear out the webs and reveal the bright spring green that is your life in Him! The window of opportunity is often short, like the sunrise as it crests over the far hills, so take notice when the revelation occurs and let God do what He does best.
He makes all things new.
As you may know, I am a huge fan of Sally Clarkson. I wrote all about her in this post. She has written several books that have changed the way I live and her podcast is on constant play when I am in my car.
For the past month I have had the pleasure of being on the launch team for the book, The Lifegiving Parent, written by Clay and Sally Clarkson. (Which means it is for daddies, too!) It has been such a privilege to share and participate in this good work of spreading the word about a message that will change the fabric of countless families.
Well, today is launch day!
Today the book will be in the hands of those of us who pre-ordered!
And today, I’d like to bless you with a giveaway! 🙂
If you will share the link to this post and leave a comment in the comments section of this page telling me so, you will be entered into a drawing for your very own copy of this wonderful new book. The winner will be announced next Tuesday, so get to sharing! I’m so excited to get this into your hands, too! You will love it.
Have a wonderful week! I’ll be out back on the porch with my nose in the book!
To order click here: The Lifegiving Parent
I don’t know about you, but I get tired of the droning of a television or radio. Commercials, not-really-that-funny commentary to fill airtime or fulfill sponsor requirements, and never knowing what might pop up in an ad when little eyes and ears are nearby have kept my TV (and radio) mostly off, except for Fixer-Upper marathons, of course!
Enter the podcast. I have subscribed to several, listening to them in the car, when cleaning, or at my computer. I heart a good podcast. It is such an easy way to fill my mind with truth and biblical encouragement and, sometimes, to get a much-needed good, clean laugh! Which is why I am here, today, to share one of my favorites with you.
Several years ago I had the pleasure of meeting Susan Wanderer, a fellow adoptive mama who happens to be raising up three of my favorite Ethiopian sweethearts ever and still manages to minister to countless children and families at her church. She is a powerhouse of a woman, sold-out for Jesus and has the best laugh EVER. Last year, she and her friend, Katie, began the She Speaks Stories podcast and it has blessed the living daylights out of me. Each week is full of stories from women in the trenches, of God’s faithfulness and ability to use our struggles, even our worst nightmares, to make us like Jesus and shine His light into this desperate, dark world. Susan and Katie interview a different woman each week, crying and laughing along with them (Did I mention Susan’s laugh? I mean, y’all, I cannot have a bad day when she gets started! From the gut, slap-your-thighs and grab-your-sides laughter that will lift even the most bah-humbug of spirits!). And amidst the laughter and tears Jesus is made known. Beautifully.
What more can I say? Go to iTunes and search “She Speaks Stories.” It will pop right up, then hit SUBSCRIBE. You will be so glad you did. And just click here for the link for you non-itunes people:)
If you happen to read this, I just want to say thank you, Susan and Katie, for taking the time to share your heart and wisdom each week. God is using you to breathe fresh air into our lives! (And one of these day’s I’m going to make it to a She Speaks Stories conference! )
I wish I could have gotten a photo without scaring them off.
The cardinal pair: Her, pecking quietly at the seeds spilling from the bright yellow feeder. Him, standing guard from a slender branch just across the narrow strip of grass usually dominated by our German Shepherd. The wind blew and the branch shivered, but he stood at his post, eyes fixed on his mate.
Something about it captured my attention.
They only stayed for a few moments. I wanted to grab my camera but knew they would be gone by the time I got back to the window and if I dared to go outside they would surely fly away. So I stood quietly, framed by morning light and mesmerized by the simple beauty of a male guarding his mate.
She was so calm and content, not even glancing up at him. She was just doing what every living creature does every day…eating. Such a simple, normal thing.
Kind of like doing laundry. All the laundry that piles up in the hamper on a regular basis. The normal mundane of my day.
Or having coffee alone in the dining room before the kids awaken, sunlight streaming in the tall windows and silence filling the air until the clomp-clomp of bare feet interrupt the quiet and the morning busy begins.
He is there. Every moment of every day. Whether I notice him or not, God watches me…and you. Whether I am mopping floors or sipping tea…or struggling to settle my mind after a stressful day…He stands near, watching. Comforting in His calm, bringing peace to the very air I breathe if I will just stop and take it in. My Father, our Father, is a constant presence.
How does this realization affect us? How does it make you feel? What does it make you want to do…or not do? For me, it gives me peace, boundaries built by love. When I forget the presence of God I easily lose focus and struggle to make sense of interruptions, pain, and trials. But when I practice the presence of God, stopping to intentionally breathe in the Spirit-filled air and remember Who is always by my side, I find strength and purpose in the mundane or the struggle. I find safety under the watchful eye of my ever-present Guard.
Late one evening, while driving home from a banquet that had been held to celebrate the end of the latest basketball season, I heard a voice pipe up from the nether-regions of my dark and messy Explorer:
“I didn’t get to eat.”
I forced my face to stay forward, eyes on the road, while I said, incredulously, “What?” (Read that with all the emphasis you can imagine. Because that’s how I said it.)
“I haven’t had dinner, Mom. I didn’t get to eat.”
I took a deep breath, willing myself to show grace and use this teachable moment. “What would Sally Clarkson say?” I thought to myself…
“You mean you were too busy hanging with your friends to eat, right? You mean you chose not to eat because you were having fun, right? Because when we left they were throwing out whole pans of spaghetti and meatballs and chicken alfredo…there was an entire banquet, a FEAST, laid out for you. There is absolutely no reason for you to be hungry except that you chose not to eat what was provided for you.”
I paused there, knowing that continuing to lecture would be overkill and that this sweet fun-loving (and now hungry) kiddo of mine had gotten the point. We arrived home, hungry child had a small snack, and everyone went to bed.
Then God started thunking me on the head.
You know the above-mentioned teachable moment I wanted to use to make a point to my child? Well, the Lord decided to turn that one on me.
He’s pretty faithful about doing that.
Proverbs 9:1-6 (MSG)* says…
Lady Wisdom has built and furnished her home;
it’s supported by seven hewn timbers.
The banquet meal is ready to be served: lamb roasted,
wine poured out, table set with silver and flowers.
Having dismissed her serving maids,
Lady Wisdom goes to town, stands in a prominent place,
and invites everyone within sound of her voice:
“Are you confused about life, don’t know what’s going on?
Come with me, oh come, have dinner with me!
I’ve prepared a wonderful spread—fresh-baked bread,
roast lamb, carefully selected wines.
Leave your impoverished confusion and live!
Walk up the street to a life with meaning.”
How often do I walk around hungry despite the literal banquet God has spread before me? He tells us He has everything we need in place. Every gift of the Holy Spirit is available to us, His beloved children. Like a mother who takes pleasure in feeding her growing children, who delights in watching them savor delicious food made by her own hands, our God has spread out a Kingdom feast and sits at the head of the table, waiting for us to join Him.
But, too often, we don’t. Despite the tantalizing smells of “fresh-baked bread, roasted lamb, and carefully selected wines” we run right past the table and try to live our lives on empty. “I’m not hungry!” we declare as we slam the door behind us and skip to the playground (work, school, relationships, life) not wanting to take the necessary time to fuel our spirits before engaging with this broken and dying world.
Then we hit the wall. We run out of energy and despair over our weakness. We stubbornly declare, “I didn’t have time,” but the truth is we didn’t want to make the time.
Because you know as well as I do the time is there.
It may mean setting the alarm earlier to spend quiet time with God before the rest of the family awakens. I could be choosing to listen to a podcast from a trusted Bible teacher or music that fills our minds with truth in the car (or while feeding babies). Maybe it involves putting down that magazine we had planned to thumb through in the doctor’s office to pick up a devotional or (wait for it) the actual Bible in our purse or even on our phone. Wherever we choose to carve it out, we have the time to consume the feast our God has prepared for us. It may not happen all in one sitting. In fact, it may mean we are taking small bites throughout the day. It’s not really about making time to feast on the Word, it’s about making the feast a priority.
And I’m telling you, sisters, that we will never walk in victory unless we are well-fed.
We cannot walk around starving and spiritually malnourished and expect to be effective in our marriages, our mothering, or any other area of life. Because the Word is life. Jesus is life. He sits at the head of the table, but the seats are too often empty. This has to stop! The culture is running at us, chasing down our families at breakneck speed, and we are so tired and distracted that we have no energy to fight! But fight, we must, or we will end up on our knees with a weak and broken spirit from years of malnutrition as we watch our homes crumble. It begins with small changes, tweaks in the schedule that we can make every single day. I’ve heard a good rule…”Work before play.” Well, how about, pray before work? Or sit at the feet of Jesus before logging in?
Verse six, above, says,
“Leave your impoverished confusion and live!
Walk up the street to a life with meaning.”
Yes, that’s it! A hungry soul is an impoverished and confused soul! We cannot think clearly when we are hungry. Any parent knows this. We have all dealt with a “hangry” child…well, I would venture to guess that many of us are spiritually hangry. We struggle to find meaning to our lives, feel bitter and angry and tired, but the answer lies in stopping…eat, drink and be filled. Be still and know that He is God. He is our provider, our strength, our portion and our cup.
from that nourished and fulfilled state,
we can emerge from the safety of home to face the world and be effective, energetic laborers in the fields. We will no longer be searching for meaning, because meaning is found at the banqueting table. We will know who we are and Whose we are and be better able to live out of that truth, living forward and purposefully into who God created us to be at the very beginning…fully dependent, empowered disciples of Jesus Christ offering hope and life to a desperate and hurting world.
Our kids are watching. Our friends and families are watching. If we don’t lead them to the banqueting table and show them the value of sitting with the Lord, feasting on all He has to give us, who will?
*MSG refers to The Message. It is a modern paraphrase of the Bible. I like to use it when trying to clarify passages or get better understanding of context.
Throughout the weeks of Lent I spent the first minutes of each morning before lit candles and a cup of coffee with a simple, yet profound, book in my lap: The Promise of Lent Devotional-A 40 day Journey Toward the Miracle of Easter by Chris Tiegreen.
I remember well the day I purchased it. It was displayed on a table in our local Lifeway Christian Bookstore, next to a devotional based on the writing of C.S. Lewis. Now, being a proud Rabbit Room member and lover of all things British, my first instinct was to grab the writings of Mr. Lewis, call it a no-brainer, and head to the checkout counter. But something about that little purple book by an author of whom I had never heard with a golden crown of thorns gracing the otherwise plain cover caused me to pause and pick it up. I flipped to the devotional for Day 1 and knew, immediately, that this was the one I was supposed to have. With my apologies to C.S. Lewis, I bought the little purple book and dove in, day by day, as Lent marched me forward to the Cross.
God is so good. With each day and every page, I was reminded of simple truths, known in my mind but often forgotten in the heat of the moment. (You may have seen some of the quotes I shared on Instagram and Facebook throughout the 40 days of Lent.) Truths such as these:
- You are called to celebrate the revelation of the coming kingdom long before you see it. Your new citizenship is far more glorious than your old.
- Those moments of crisis are a mark of all good fiction, and they are also a mark of God’s best stories.
- The world says, “How dare you call me sinful?” and stays enslaved. We say, “Yes, I am that and more,” and are set free.
- The dawn is most beautiful after the darkest of nights.
- The ways of the world have to surrender to the decrees of the insistently, stubbornly, relentlessly faithful.
And then this sentence…on Good Friday as the beautiful strains of Andrew Peterson’s new album, Resurrection Letters, Volume 1, washed over me and brought me into a beautiful place of worship…”Friday is not the end of the story.”
Is it Friday in your life, where you are, today? Are you standing at the foot of a cross, dreams shattered and heart broken, in disbelief? Are you caught up in a storm, not of your own choosing, and tossed about on a sea of tears? Finding joy in those seasons can be difficult, if not impossible. How do you find joy in sickness, death (whether of a loved one or of a dream), a rebellious child, an adulterous husband, or poverty? How do you see the “good” in the very, very bad?
There was nothing “good” on Good Friday. To all outward appearances the Son of God ended up just being an innocent man murdered on a cross between two thieves. Everyone who had believed in him walked away disappointed and afraid. Their hope was gone. The words he had spoken to prepare them for this day had pooled into a jumbled mess of confusion in the back of their grief-stricken and panicked minds. There was nothing for which to be thankful.
But what they could not see was the other side of the veil. Their earthly eyes, blinded by tears and worry, were not attuned to the hum of voices and the drumbeat of Heaven building up into a cadence of victorious joy that would burst through on the morning of the third day when the dead body of Jesus suddenly drew a deep breath and sat up, unwrapped the grave clothes that bound Him in death, watched the light of the morning sun break through as the angel rolled the stone away and walked clean out of that tomb.
It may be Friday in your life, and right now there is nothing good about that. But will you choose to hope? Will you cry out to the Father along with me, “I believe, help my unbelief?” And can you rest on Saturday, just as our Savior rested, knowing that Sunday is coming? Resurrection is coming?
He will make the joy so worth the pain. It’s a promise.
Friday is not the end of the story.
And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” Revelation 21:3-4